Are Neuro Connection Updates Really Possible?
And why it may matter to us?
What everybody needs to know about this self-improvement business
Hundreds of people offer “quick fixes” and promise they can “cure” you of your negative feelings. But there is one simple problem with this approach:
Only you can change yourself, and I know how to do just that…
But it’s important to have the right tools to start. Have you ever heard of the Emotional Guidance System? It’s like a GPS for your emotions. If you know how you feel at the moment, you can use it to feel how you want to. This is not just some new-age, pie-in-the-sky sort of deal. This has been studied in-depth and has proven its worth in spades. In addition, I use techniques that are also proven to re-write, limiting subconscious beliefs into beliefs that support you!
I know I can help you lead the life that you were meant to live…
Why?
Because I did!
And I have coached many others to achieve that elusive goal: deep, positive, lasting change. The kind of change that makes people smile when they see you walking down the street. A complete shift that brightens your every moment, and helps you bounce-back from any pitfalls that life throws at you.
We all have tried many modalities only to end up frustrated and discouraged. Our issues may have improved a bit, but overall, no big change came out of them.
If so, perhaps you will resonate with my story and find that you, too, can apply the tools I used to change where it matters most.
The Workshop Coattails Effect explains how most people cut short their positive transformation. I share it with you so that you, too can know that lasting, concrete change for the better is not only possible but also doable.
Are we aware of what the Workshop Coattails Effect does in the world of Emotions in a human being? **
Therefore, if we were depressed before going to a workshop, the Workshop Coattails Effect would catapult you into joy. Going from a 1 to a 22!*(see chart at the end).
We are talking about a hyperjump here! Jumping 2 or 3 rungs on the scale would be more realistic for long-term benefits.
Let’s say we have unfounded feelings of fear, powerlessness, and much insecurity. Let’s say that’s mostly where we are emotionally on a daily basis. However, we just can’t accept our condition as permanent; we try to feel better, so we read self-help books, we go to seminars on how to fix those unwanted feelings. Many processes helped, but whereas for others, it resolved their situation, for us, it just gave us temporary relief and false hope.
Then we fall in love (or go yet to another workshop, or find a Guru, or a new trend, a new diet, drugs, discover shopping…), and we think we have finally cornered our problem, and we feel invincible! On top of the world!
Unfortunately, we haven’t really resolved your issues. Our feelings were catapulted into joy by any exterior event/person. So that when our reason for being on top of the world (boyfriend, workshop, Guru, new trend, new diet…) disappears, leaving us again with the feeling of “Why do I even try? What’s wrong with me? I must be cursed! Life is hard! Life is Unfair! Etc. “
All the negative clichés speed through our minds all at once, and we are back feeling low. Which becomes our default setting of functioning as the pattern is repeated again and again and again.
We might say: “What is wrong with jumping from a low-feeling place to an exhilarated feeling place? So much the better!” I would tend to agree unless the new setting is anchored artificially and is instead a quick fix, in which the thin veneer vanishes, and our true situation quickly returns! The jump is so big that no one could hang on without the outside cause.
Moreover, there is an emotional price to pay! Being sucked back into that low feeling place because we did not get to joy organically. The process is self-defeating and lacks understanding of the dynamic of our own emotional guidance system. Therefore, we’re sucked back into feeling low, kicking and screaming, feeling the pain more intensely, until we numb ourselves to our true feelings and resign ourselves to mediocrity, or we recover and start all over again until the pattern is like a groove which we are aware of, but cannot change. Sounds familiar? Don’t give up! Don’t settle for an emotional death, resentment, and living an unfilled life. Hope is real, and I am here to show you a way out! I am living proof that it is possible!
Let’s explore this Workshop Coattails Effect with a real-life scenario:
My childhood was difficult, I learned to repress my emotions and not to feel too much because it was too painful. From time to time, I would have fun or have joy, but in general, I was withdrawn. And people wouldn’t have called me as joyous by a long shot!
With time, age, and a desire to feel better, as an adult, I decided to enter therapy. That’s healthy, you might say, but by that time, I prided myself on being above such emotions as jealousy, anger, etc… I told myself, “I never get angry! No Siree! Not me! Revenge is for people who didn’t evolve spiritually-and I am better than that!” I had overcome all those lesser emotions! Ah! Ah! Never to be expressed or thought of again.
However, they surfaced by being frustrated and overly impatient, and I experienced health issues that defied a diagnosis. I used sheer willpower to overcome a general feeling of tiredness with a side effect of being in Emergency Mode (what I refer to when I was never satisfied with what I had accomplished during the day and had to do more and more, like my life depended on me finishing all chores, and unrealistic projects.)
And, of course, I put on a mask, being a team player and believing I was cheerful and positive. I faked it and believed it, but my body does not lie! And my power of attraction didn’t either!
After analyzing and dissecting the details of all possible traumas in therapy, I found a little relief but not the deep sense of well-being I sought. The therapist acknowledged that I am smart and self-aware but that there was nothing else to analyze. I was at a dead end!
So I found techniques like Hypnosis, EMDR, EFT, and NLP and received some relief, but still not what I was looking for. I wanted to feel good naturally and on a regular basis! My emotional set point was way below hope!
Fortunately for me, I was open to exploring more avenues and found the Teachings of Abraham ® by Esther and Jerry Hicks, where Emotions rule. The very thing important to the determination of my well-being was that I had repressed and replaced with what others thought and felt.
The goosebumps told me I was onto something big. Glimmers of hope beyond hopes began settling in. Wondering if this was just another false promise and at the same time thanking all that had led me to this new discovery, I plunged into understanding this self-guidance system that Abraham calls: the Emotional Guidance System.
My mind was flooded with questions. How does it work? How do I get in touch? Hello? Where have you been? I was supposed to get one too. So where is it? And just like a muscle that has not been used in a long time, if the Emotional Guidance System has been neglected/replaced with another/or simply repressed, is it a little atrophied/lying dormant? Just like Aladdin’s lamp, if stroked/encouraged/listened to, it will spring to life and show me all of what I have been dreaming of and more.
Also, for the first time, I understood that emotions are not “bad or good”. There are emotions I choose to encourage and feel often, and some I would rather not have to feel. But no matter what I cultivate, emotions are guideposts for me to see where I stand in The Emotional Guiding System. And that is good and worth noticing because what I am attracting into my life depends on how I feel.
I had a friend in New York City who had given me a hint of this when she described her parking experiences. She said: “At this place, it takes me 5 minutes to find a space; at that place, it takes me 20 minutes, and over there, I never find parking…” At the time, I remember thinking that it was odd because I always find prime parking no matter where I go! But I had not thought anything of it in the past. It was just my experience. That day she had mentioned it because, she had found parking faster than usual and she was puzzled. Looking back, I realized that I had entered her sphere of influence and my “good luck with parking space” had rubbed off.
I could not understand why many modalities did help but were not all I had hoped to gain. Close, but it was missing a few steps (no pun intended, but literally!). I was on the hunt; no stopping now! I listened to videos, read many more books, and did different exercises, and then: The AHA! “Moment” came when I realized I had never really “gone up” the Emotional Scale of my Emotional Guidance System. I had taken many leaps without really feeling my way up the scale.
My joy and exhilaration were produced by an exterior source instead of being produced by my Inner Being.
Anyone can feel happy when in the presence of greatness, or when laughing our heart out, or when in love, but can we sustain the feeling on our own?
And we can do all the affirmations we want, but mere words do not fool your Inner self (subconscious, unconscious) if not backed up with the same feeling we are stating. We respond to vibration (words and emotions). There is no way to lie because what we attract is a reflection of what we feel and believe in our core. What we feel on a daily basis creates our vibrational makeup. And our vibrational makeup is our Point of Attraction to create tangible physical things in this world.
As much as I cannot really complain about where I was considering how I felt, I would consider myself overrated and underachieving. And this is not a putdown but a fact.
I have often been told of my potential. So where did those potentials go? They were like Sleeping Beauty, just waiting to be awakened. I had finally found a major missing piece to my puzzle. My Vibrational Energetic Set Point was one of Low Energy, and therefore, I was mostly attracting mediocrity in my life with little sparks of genius and joy. What shocked me most was to realize that as a child, I was probably depressed and not just withdrawn. As a young adult, I unconsciously made sure to mask my condition.
Throughout the years it was deeply frustrating to know I could do better, but I didn’t know how. No matter what I did, I was not attracting what I wanted. I was definitely going upstream. No doubt there! I laughed and cried so hard when I read Abraham talking about how human beings tend to think they have to go upstream. I even tried to install a motor!
My husband, bless his heart for his constant love, used to tease me and hum the theme music of General Patton when I was going overboard! And he had many chances to do so! FYI, General Patton’s approach was: There is no stopping for any reason…
Thankfully, I had read Louise Hay’s book: Heal Your Life. It showed me that I was responsible for my life and the only one who could change it. And that, alone, was the beginning of my freedom. Actually, for many years, that book was my very close companion. And it does look it too!
Back then, I used to sometimes mention, if asked, that I felt ninety percent happy about my life and so self-aware! Ha! Ha! Ha!
So, now I was back to asking myself: “What can I do?” I was asking the wrong question.
I should have asked: “What is it I feel?”
“How can I move and transform those stuck emotions so their vibrations no longer negatively affect my life?”
And I must admit that my therapist tried to point me in the right direction toward a higher awareness of what I was feeling at any given time, but with no explanation of the Emotional Guidance system. His questions about how I felt were more annoying than helpful. He assumed I knew that my feelings would guide me to have some realizations…
However, he was the first to describe to me that what I was feeling seemed to him like someone trying to extinguish a fire.
Later on, I came up with a description explaining my condition as “Being on Emergency Mode.”
A culturally transmitted disease passed on mostly from mothers to daughters. At least, that is my observation so far. Women working and caring for the family often develop that pattern of not having enough hours during the day. And they “unconsciously pass it on” to their daughters and sometimes their sons.
I could really extrapolate on this subject, but let’s get back to the primary topic here.
The beauty of understanding our own Emotional Guidance System is that we HAVE an Emotional Guidance System!
And it is not necessary to go through all the past issues I had analyzed from every possible angle. I only had to do the process for the issues that kept coming back repeatedly.
Or, in other words, for those issues that are still active in my vibration-and, we know if the vibrations are still active when we feel bad about being reminded of the topic. It is just brilliant and so simple!
Finally, I read a book I had bought for my husband about the biology of beliefs because if we want to change our vibration, we need to change our beliefs, not just consciously but subconsciously too.
So, I was reading again on my new favorite topic: How to change myself so that I can affect my physical reality? Bruce Lipton, Ph.D., wrote the book. The title is “The Biology of Beliefs,” and he mentions techniques called PSYCH-K®.
I now know that those techniques can change our beliefs at 5G speed compared to the telegraph of affirmations or the dial-up of EFT (affirmations and EFT are great, PSYCH-K® has faster processes). As soon as I read, “You can change your beliefs subconsciously by learning PSYCH-K®,” I dropped the book and went online to register for the first workshop. Two weeks later I was learning those techniques and then I took and repeated all the workshops I could because I knew that I had found what is still unknown by the majority of people!
I finally found the missing piece, and it feels good to feel good finally! Not that my life is perfect, as “we never get it done, and we never get it wrong!” A-H. Life keeps bringing new challenges; however, I am more prepared to find solutions and rebound faster when handed a hardship.
Shortly after registering for the first workshop, I was given a book by Robert M. Williams, M.A.
“The Missing (Piece) Peace” and the workings of a new modality to me: PSYCH-K®.
I knew then I was doing the right thing to fly where the first available workshop was taking place. I am so very grateful to Bruce Lipton for giving me the information and to Robert Williams for developing the PSYCH-K® techniques.
My life has taken a turn for the better, and I am so thankful and appreciative for my chance to feel good daily!
Now with the new tools I have learned with PSYCH-K®, I can easily identify what it is that I do not want and install new enhancing beliefs I DO want! And much more!
It is not a magic wand and still requires my determination and investment of my time and resources. However, there is a way that works!
These procedures are called “PSYCH-K® balances.” PSYCH-K® balances are ideal for reprogramming the subconscious mind with self-enhancing beliefs where self-limiting beliefs used to be. (Negative programming and self-limiting thinking of any kind affect our moods, relationships, performance, self-esteem, and even our physical health.) PSYCH-K® also gives you the tools to transform painful and emotional events into non-attachment and more.
We find these processes so helpful because they enter the subconscious mind where all habitual processes are stored, and the beliefs can be rewritten. (Thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, and feelings are all interconnected. In order to re-write a belief, you need to be able to do it on a subconscious level if you want to see results in your life and use very little willpower!). Just as you can reprogram a personal computer, PSYCH-K® can be a kind of “mental keyboard” to your own brain, re-scripting old negative beliefs into new positive ones. It makes more sense to experience these techniques than to try to explain them. Results can be felt immediately. Some clients have really been “wowed” by the immediate improvements, just like I was when I was the recipient, and I still do now.
Private sessions are a great way to experience the techniques firsthand, and workshops are for those of you that want more than a few sessions.
I help people that want to change their lives by changing their subconscious beliefs first and then inspired actions do the rest.
We are co-creators of our own reality by intent or by default, and what we believe manifests in our world. The idea is that we start with a thought, and after repeating it over and over, it becomes a belief, and after a while, it becomes a physical reality.
Are you creating your life by intent or by default?
“A belief is a thought that you have been thinking for a long time.” — Abraham Hicks
If we keep on thinking a thought long enough, it becomes a belief.
And where are beliefs stored? In the subconscious mind where they become habits. Why is it important? Because we attract into our lives what is stored in our subconscious mind.
“If you believe you can or if you believe you can’t…You’re right.” —- Henry Ford
Your life will reflect your beliefs. In addition, beliefs are associated with emotions, and emotions are vibrations. The Emotional GPS chart below shows that the vibrations of emotions are getting faster and lighter as you go up the chart. So, to raise your vibration is to move out of a habitual emotion set point to another emotional set point.
“What you put your attention on, GROWS!” — Louise Hay
The more you tell your story, the more your life will resemble what you are talking about.”
During therapy, we are talking to the conscious mind, and the conscious mind is the one that got us to the therapist! However, we can talk all we want; the real change occurs when we change our programs on a subconscious level of the mind. We do not necessarily reach the subconscious mind, where all habits and beliefs are stored by analyzing all that happened to us. Some understanding resulted from such talk, but for me, the real change kept being like a mirage that kept moving away from me!
I could analyze every possible way and experience the same life as before!
Identifying what programs were installed is important, and then you need to get to the transformation and to the update of such limiting programs.
Call or email Vera for a session to experience those techniques and find out for yourself that you CAN change your mind—literally!
You have all you need inside of you to make the necessary changes and live the life you have been dreaming of.
VeraNeuhauser
Life Coach and PSYCH-K® Facilitator
Vera@CaochingToJoy.com
Sessions can be conducted in person via Zoom, FaceTime, or Messenger.
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Inspired by Abraham’s Teachings ®, the Scale of Emotions goes from 1 to 22 and mostly looks something like this—See below
Emotional Guidance Scale:
1) Joy, Knowledge, Empowerment, Freedom, Love, Bliss
2) Appreciation, Passion
3) Enthusiasm, Eagerness, Happiness
4) Positive Expectation, Life Enhancing Beliefs
5) Healthy Pride, Optimism
6) Hopefulness
7) Satisfaction, Contentment
8) Lack of Concern, Excitement or Interest, Boredom
9) Pessimism
10) Frustration, dissatisfaction, Irritation, Impatience
11) Overwhelmed
12) Disappointment
13) Doubt
14) Worry, Anxiety, Stressed
15) Blame
16) Discouragement
17) Anger
18) Revenge
19) Hatred, Rage
20) Jealousy, Shame, Diminishment
21) Insecurity, Guilt, Unworthiness
22) Fear, Grief, Depression, Despair, Powerlessness
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THE EFFECT ©2011 by Vera Lyoubovskya, now Vera Neuhauser
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