Dear Friends,
I have noticed that most people feel guilty about getting over grief faster than what they have customarily observed being the norm in our society for their life. So, transforming the trauma of their loved one’s passing is avoided unless it was long ago. Then it is all right to remove the oppressing pain and move on. Otherwise, they feel like they are not caring enough to get over it so soon by transforming the trauma and shortening the grieving process when it is fresh or recent.
Then there is the question: How long is too soon?
Everyone has a time limit on when they will smile again and live again, and still, every time they hear the name of their loved one, they have the same stabbing pain and watery eyes.
It’s been a long time since I communicated with you.
2021 started dramatically with my mother’s passing on January 12, 2021, and then it sped up to what could have been a downward spiral of events trying to lay me down!
The hardships my husband and I experienced in 2021 were part of life, but they were condensed in that year, and I finished the year breaking both bones of my left arm badly, which caused excruciating pain. As I was healing and looking forward to 2022, I received an emergency call from my nephew to announce that my brother was dying and I needed to assist the family. I felt compelled to go to say goodbye and provide assistance. On January 21, 2022, my youngest brother and I comforted each other and my dying brother while he passed on at the young age of 66 in what I would consider one of the most agonizing ways to die.
In the past nine years, I realized that I don’t have to live with grief for months on end when I know how to transform traumas so that I can be my best self and, in the process, remember and honor the departed ones with joyful memories.
Before those nine years, I would be sobbing as I would write what I am sharing now with you. Instead, I am now calmly and peacefully writing due to the invaluable help I found in doing PSYCH-K® balances for myself.
It is a relief to know that when I speak of my mother or brother, I have a warm feeling in my heart, and many joyous memories come to mind. I am sad I will not see them again in physical form, but the overall feeling is connectedness, joy in having known them, and the memories of sharing some of my journey on this earth with them.
Life is short, and every moment in grief is a moment that we cannot get back to feeling the joy of living, so I suggest allowing yourself to have love and joy in your heart and letting go of the pain of the loss.
Why not book a session with me or a facilitator of your choice, and transform the grief into love, gratitude, and more?
Give yourself the gift of letting go of the pain and embracing the love and joy of living!
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